Love Notes: Are You Deceiving Yourself?


“Nothing is easier than self-deceit.” Anonymous

Think about it. Have you been deceiving yourself? That is, somewhere inside you know what is true and yet you deny it. Maybe it has to do with your career. You know you are not satisfied with your performance or that you have outgrown your work and yet you don’t take any action to change. Or it might be in the area of a relationship, where you enjoy the person and have fun together, but you know there is something missing.

When we feel this discontent, one question to ask is, “Am I really putting my whole self into this? Or is there a part of me that is holding back?”

At times it is a lack of full commitment that keeps us from experiencing that fullness of life. And sometimes it is that we have put ourselves in a situation that is not congruent with our vision and values of who we really are. Do you have a vision for your life? Can you clearly state that vision if someone were to ask you? Many people are vague about their vision and so they choose careers or lovers that do not fit with their vision. Then they wonder why things don’t seem to go well or why they feel empty.

If you find that you are having trouble getting committed to something, here are some questions to ask yourself.

What am I really passionate about? If you are really passionate something then commitment is usually not a problem. It’s when we are trying to make ourselves care more about something that we really do, that we have trouble getting committed.

What will I miss out on if I don’t do this?

What will it cost me if I don’t move forward now?

How will it affect me spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially if I don’t get in touch with my passion?

If I do identify and act on my passions, how will I feel about myself?

What kind of momentum could I have if I go for it?

How much happier could I be if I were making concrete strides toward what I am passionate about?

When you live your life from your true passion and purpose, things seem to fall into place. People and opportunities show up at the right time. Doors open. You feel happy and content, yet have energy that fuels you forward. Don’t live in self-deceit any longer. Go for your dreams!


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